If you follow me on Twitter (@tlt16), you know that I initially wanted to throw this book across the room and walk away. You see, Falling for You is the story of Rae. Rae comes from an extremely dysfunctional home but is presented as a strong, though guarded, young woman. Then she meets Nathan, the new boy in school. Nathan is intense, alarming. From day 1, Nathan sends alarm signals to those in the know; getting into a relationship with Nathan is a really bad idea - and Rae seems too smart for that (edited to add: please see the great discussion in the comments where I clarify this statement). This was my initial Tweet:
This book is making me ragey.
— TeenLibrarianToolbox (@TLT16) January 9, 2013
The very next day, Nathan and Rae are eating pizza. "A supreme?", he asks. But no, Rae doesn't like onions. "You can just pick them off," Nathan replies. He dominates the conversation. He kisses. A lot. He suggests she deletes all the other guys out of her cell phone. He pressures her, often, to have sex in ways that are emotionally manipulative and sometimes terrifying. I hated Nathan, but then you're supposed to. But more importantly, it didn't seem like Rae was the type of girl to fall into this trap. It seemed like really inconsistent character writing.
So, I was torn. But then Heather, who is reviewing this title for Booklist so look for her review, told me to keep reading it. I respect Heather, her opinion, so read on I did. And I AM SO GLAD THAT I LISTENED TO HER. Why?
See, Rae tells her friends that she is worried by Nathan's behavior. And, as it devolves into scary stalker soon to be abusive territory, her friends see it too and back her up. For once, we have a strong though flawed teenage girl noticing the signs of an abusive relationship and trying to get herself out of the situation. What a powerful message to girls, you can get out. We know that statistically most girls will leave something like 7 times before they leave for the last time, Rae does slip at one point. We also know that leaving an abusive relationship is one of the most dangerous times for women because these types of men don't like losing control. But that particular fact isn't really shown in Rae's relationship with Nathan, but in her mom's relationship with her stepfather Dean. An entirely different plot point, an equally heartbreaking. Rae's mom makes a revealation that very realistically depicts domestic violence.
A Rae of Sunshine
Although the cover sells it that way, Falling for You is not really simply a book about obsessive love. Falling for You is really the story of Rae, a young girl trying to find herself and find happiness in a world that has definitely dealt her a crappy hand. Rae is a realistic teenage girl; she is me, she is the girl you pass in the hallways at school. Even while her mother ignores her and her stepfather spirals out of control, there are people in her life that genuinely love and support her. In fact, one of the closing themes of Falling for You is the idea of family:
As I took it all in, three pairs of eyes reached out to me. And what I saw in my friends' faces surprised me. . . And in that moment, I realized family isn't necessarily who you live with. (page 339)
A Kindness Revolution with a Dab of Poetry
I won't get into the details, but another significant part of the story are some random acts of kindness that an anonymous person sends Rae on through her job at a florist. While making deliveries, Rae meets various strangers who touch her life in a variety of ways. At the same time, Rae begins sharing her poetry in the school newspaper. Although she does so at first anonymously, she eventually chooses to put her name on her poems and encourages her fellow students to be open about who they really are. There is some great discussion here about how the social expectation has come to be that we must always be "on", and in those moments of dishonesty, we rob ourselves of the chance to truly connect with one another. The message is sometimes preachy, but it is spot on and important.
In the End, I Shed Tears
Falling for You turned out to be such an uplifting story, inspiring. What at first seemed like inconsistent character issues turned out to be a compelling arc of a young woman coming into her own. And I was thankful for those moments of insight that Rae shared, those moments where she recognized her neediness and questioned what she was doing. Rae was strong but flawed, a very realistic depiction. Rae is relateable. Rae is real.
I want to take a moment to share one other element that I think made this a strong story; because, although at the times the story gets preachy, it has a strong storytelling style that keeps you invested. We begin with a very vague scene in the hospital, where you realize that something has happened to someone, something horrible and tragic. Then the book itself is divided into sections: 5 months before, 4 months before, 3 months before, 1 month before, the day before. In between each section is another ominous hospital scene. You know something bad has happened, but you have no idea what. At the same time, you see the elements of both Rae's relationship with Nathan and her stepfather spiraling out of control. Either one of them is a candidate for having done something to Rae, and you want to know what happened and who did it. It is a very taut stortytelling mechanism, it keeps readers turning the page.
And Then There Was Leo
There are several rays of light in Rae's life, but one of my favorites is her friend Leo. Leo is, simply stated, a good guy. He's the type of guy you want your teens to date (if they must date - can't they wait until they're 30 LOL). He isn't shiny and dazzling and perfect. He is real. A lot of times the boys in teen fiction are "hot" and "swoony", setting some unrealistic expectations in readers and setting up guy readers to make unrealistic self comparisons. I wonder often how these depictions of guys must make readers feel about themselves just like I wonder how some of the covers make girls feel about themselves. And then there was Leo, the perfect guy not because he is in fact perfect, but because he is perfectly real and perfectly nice.
This was my final Tweet:
I didn't think I even wanted to finish FALLING FOR YOU by @lisa_schroederbut I did and my heart grew 3 sizes.
— TeenLibrarianToolbox (@TLT16) January 10, 2013
There are a lot of elements to this book, and in the end they come together to inspire. I am pretty sure at the end my heart grew 3 sizes, Grinchlike. And on a personal note, I loved Rae's obsession with the Foo Fighters (who rock!), her love of poetry (there are poems scattered throughout), and the fact that books and libraries are mentioned in positive ways. Falling for You is not perfect, but in the end it is perfectly heartwarming. In the midst of the pages there is also a simply wonderful love story, it's just a bumpy road for Rae to get there. People online seem to be having very mixed and strong reactions, as I definitely did in the beginning, but your teens will LOVE this book. I think this is a really important, inspiring books that we need in our collections. And the cover rocks, teens will check it out. 3.5 out of 5 stars.
Falling for You by Lisa Schroeder. Published in January 2013 by Simon Pulse. ISBN: 978-1-4424-6121-5.